It is a beautiful evening. The sky is painted with brush strokes of deep purple and orange, with splashes of pink throughout the expanse. The waves create a melodious chant, as they gently kiss the shoreline. The wind is warm as it blows softly across our faces. My husband and I are holding hands and walking barefoot on the beach. Once in a while, a seagull glides through the air, letting us know that it is around, to beg for food.
Something awakens me. I realize that this wonderful scene was only a dream, a yearning to experience a romantic interaction between me and my husband again. But circumstances change, and what once was taken for granted is gone and will never return.
My husband's vascular dementia prevents him from showing this type of affection. In the television series, The Big Bang Theory, the character of Sheldon is like my husband. When I go to give him a hug, he stands there like a tree, and pats my back with a "There, there, now." It's a bittersweet feeling of loss, a type of grieving, but that's the way it is, and I need to make the best of the situation that is at hand.
God's Word says to us:
Romans 5:3-4 – We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they are good for us — they help us learn to be patient. And patience develops strength of character in us and helps us trust God more each time we use it until finally our hope and faith are strong and steady. (TLB)
I know that God is with me and my husband. He has helped me through some tough times, and He is still teaching me patience. God loves me even though I lose it at times. He provides personal support workers, nurses, caregivers, geriatric doctors who deal with the elderly and help patients with memory problems, as well as all sorts of support groups. And when it is time for a loved one to enter into full-time nursing, God will provide the proper facilities.
Ephesians 2:10 – For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them. (NASB)
What is God using in your life to teach you patience?
Prayer: Lord God, heavenly Father, thank You for providing Your children with various helps and services. Grant the caregivers strength, patience, and wisdom. Thank You for Your gift of the Holy Spirit Who helps us when things get tough. Amen.
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