Forgiver And Forgiven

May 16, 2015
by June Heale

Have you met Mr. and Mrs. Grudge? Let me introduce them to you. These people go through life, forgiving with great reluctance and carrying around feelings of ill will over various grievances. The grievances could be real or imagined. On the other hand, are you the one who needs to forgive in order to move on in your life? The bitterness in the heart of unforgiving people is evident to many.

I hate to admit it, but I saw my dad do this with his brother who lived across the street from us. Consequently, the family was not supposed to speak to our uncle. (I did, though, as I was a married woman by this time.) Rather than trying to work things out, dad just chose not to speak. Who was right and who was wrong, I do not know for sure. But I do know that this was not showing brotherly or neighbourly love. Dad was an unhappy man for many years, and I am sure that his brother was also.

Ephesians 4:31-32 – Stop being bitter and angry and mad at others. Don't yell at one another or curse each other or ever be rude. Instead, be kind and merciful, and forgive others, just as God forgave you because of Christ. (CEV)

Being unforgiving places a very strong chain around our heart. Maybe we or the other person feels that forgiveness is not warranted. Whoa, wait a minute! God did not look at us this way when He sent His Son Jesus to set us free.

John 3:16 – God loved the people of this world so much that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who has faith in him will have eternal life and never really die. (CEV)

This is the kind of love that God wants us to show to one another:

Matthew 18:21-22 – Peter came up to the Lord and asked, "How many times should I forgive someone who does something wrong to me? Is seven times enough?" Jesus answered: "Not just seven times, but seventy-seven times!" (CEV)

When we forgive others, God forgives us. That means that we can be both the forgiver and the forgiven, if we will only release those chains around our heart.

Prayer: Dear heavenly Father, many times we come to You in prayer asking for forgiveness, knowing full well that our past, present, and future sins were forgiven at the cross. Help us, Father, to show this same kind of love to one another and to be a forgiving people as we forgive one another our trespasses. In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

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June Heale <jinnybug@shaw.ca>
Parksville, British Columbia, Canada

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1 Comment

  • PresbyCan Feedback says:

    Amen to your prayer!


    You are so right.


    Good reminder June. Something we all struggle with at one time or another.


    A big AMEN to that, June.
    Blessings to you.


    Thank you June.
    May you have a safe, lovely long weekend.


    Bravo June for speaking out on the topic of forgiveness.
    May The Lord richly bless you and yours.


    Good Morning June. Well done. Good words for sure. Thanks for the great start to my day!!
    Thanks again and May God continue to bless you as you show His love to others.


    I enjoyed your writing. Sometimes forgiving is very difficult but if you can accept the other person and understand you both are looking at something with a different perspective and first act as though you do forgive then forgiveness will come. Thanks for your words. They are so true.


    June – this was a good lesson in forgiveness. Unfortunately, I know a few families who are estranged because they will not forgive. What’s more sad is that they are Christians yet the enemy has deceived them. Thank you for reminding us that we cannot be truly free to serve Christ if we choose to harbor bitterness in our hearts.
    Please Keep Writing!
    Blessings.


    Hi June
    These are such wise words we need to be reminded of over and over again.
    I went through 2 occasions of being shackled by an unforgiving attitude.
    I praise and thank the Lord for showing me the childishness of one of his children. The only one I was hurting was me. The one had dies, never even knowing how I felt. The other is paying for her lying tongue which hurt many people and she is now a bitter lonely old lady.
    All I feel towards her is pity.


    Very good, June.
    We Irish do not hold grudges. Instead, we put them out on the front lawn where we can water them, give them fertilizers, and make them grow.
    Obviously, I am being a bit sarcastic but unfortunately also realistic.
    And yet, this is a miserable way to live.
    Good thing that Our Lord does not treat us like we treat each other.
    Even on the cross, He asked His Father to forgive those who had named Him to the cross.
    God bless & keep on writing,
    (Texas)


    Hello
    Just a word of encouragement. I have found that some of the translations have left out statements of great value. Please, if you will, consider the following. The word “perish”, which refers to the second death, everlasting death in hell fire, where the spirit, soul and body of the unsaved person remains for eternity, and never dies.
    Friend, you are right, our God, through His Son Jesus has shown forgiveness beyond measure.
    Keep looking up, and rejoice in the wisdom that our Lord has given to you, and do not back down if the world hates you now, or in the future. Cling to His word, as a lamp for your feet, and a light to your path.
    (USA)


    It seems a shame when one hardens there heart against friends and relatives. What a waste. God bless.

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